How does a CEO focused home work?
Familial cultures that exist for a reason. People have worked hard to cultivate those identities. Others ran with the flow of things and their identity was created for them.
This can be seen by the general types of family traits one can witness. There are families that are known for their altruism and volunteering, others for their sports focus, others for their academic focus.
What is the focus of your family? What do you value? What is the legacy you’re trying to set and leave behind?
An academic focused family will invest a lot of resources into programs to enrich the academic potentials of everyone within the family. These families tend to go to great schools, select neighborhoods based on school districts, have tutors, spend extra on academic challenges, have higher levels of college graduation and post graduate degrees. (provided they’ve got the resources to do so)
A family with a sports focus looks, sounds, feels, and operate differently yet the same. The focus is on sports instead of academics.
Families that focus on free form living will have less emphasis on keeping rigid forms. They adapt more to different ideas and test them more often.
All of these examples, the heads of households made the choices and impressed on the children to come on board with the plan.
When The Children Lead and parents follow…
Some families let the children lead the way. They set the tone. While it’s tempting to label such families as permissive, that is too restrictive a label.
Some children have great innate instincts and can lead their families well. Most children however do appreciate some help navigating the world. It’s best to err with the assumption that your child needs your input and guidance.
When children lead the home, there is far more emotional variances that can catch people by surprise. Children aren’t born with strong moral reasoning and abstract thinking skills. They learn that over time. When the parents lead the home, generally speaking, there is more stability in emotional experiences.
Families that focus on giving the child whatever she asks for tend to find themselves reacting more to emotional pleas and ploys. Over time, such children find structure of society confining. The cost of letting a child lead the process is high.
By the way, this does not mean parents aren’t to pay attention to the needs of their child. This blog is saying the parent should make the ultimate choice of what is best for the child as you take into consideration the child’s input.
As a child grows from infancy through toddler years, parenting styles and focus shifts. The child gains more independence. Parents now juggle more of their needs alongside that of the child. The process continues through adulthood. It’s the transition that is most critical. It’s in the transition that couples have to remember to nurture their own relationships.
If a couple forgets their transition and lets the needs of the child take priority, eventually, they will end up place they had not expected to be. Reality strikes harsh when the children leave the home. The sense of purpose, now lost, makes the empty-nest phase that much more difficult to navigate.
When Children Join Us… conclusions
When children arrive, life changes. It has to. We have to accommodate the presence of another human being with their own personality and preferences.
In the early days/years, all resources are thrown into keeping the child alive. However, some have to be spared to keep the relationship alive.
Without the relationship, the very structure that keeps the child safe is in jeopardy. We have to care for ourselves and our interest if we’re to model a healthy way of living for the child.
The child’s sense of security, sense of safety, and trust is based on how they feel around us. A tumultuous home challenges a child’s deep sense of the world. The same way a calm predictable home does.
Our lives do not stop because we become parents. Our skills have to increase, for sure, but our lives does not end.
The more we’re able to keep our lives going, the more we have to offer our children as examples of what is possible in this world.
As they grow up, involve them more into our activities. If we’re a hiking family, as it makes sense, take them on a hike with us. Let them pick out trails. Let them pick out their own gear. Let them lead the hike. Adjust the responsibilities with age to engage them more.
Furthermore, as they grow, let them explore their own interest as well. This should not have to be stated, but you’d be surprised as to how many homes will not let a child grow up. Let the child explore and learn. They may surprise you and introduce you to new views, activities, and hobbies you didn’t know you’d like.
However, no matter the introductions, the final decision as to how the family is identified and functions rests in the CEOs hands. The CEOs facilitate the framework within which the children grow and explore. Great CEOs will give the children ample room with appropriate guidance to safely venture into this world.
When children join us, it’s a new chance to discover ourselves while teaching others (the children) about what is important to us… while leaving room for them to teach us what is important to them.
It was teamwork that created the chance for parenthood to happen. It’s teamwork that will shape the foundation for the child(ren) to be a part of the team and add value to the team.
As you navigate your life, make a little time to adjust proactively to your role as parents of your family unit. Great CEOs plan ahead and adjust as they go along.
Have a great week leading your family to greatness.