It’s quite well and good to want to have resilient children who are filled with gratitude. It is great to work on yourself to model these traits. It’s even better still if your partner is on the same page as you are. Sometimes, sadly, not everyone is on board with this mindset. Especially if one of the CEOs of the home is bringing this novel concept of resilience through gratitude.
Surrounding yourself with a positive family
First of all, progress takes time and also requires buy-in from everyone. No matter how positive you are and how resilient you are, unless the other members of the home go on their own journey to adopt such a mindset, they’re not coming on the journey with you. Worse, they can make it very hard to reach your goals.
Nevertheless, it’s important to have a good productive conversation with you partner about the vision you’d like to bring into the home. Both of you have to come to a reasonable conclusion and work the plan together to get there.
Once both leaders of the home are in agreement about having a positive gracious resilient home, accountability comes into play. Both of you have to work together and hold each other accountable to learning the skills and implementing them in your own lives.
This may involve having mentors and/or coaches outside the home helping. This may mean setting up various incentive models to help each other stay the course.
While younger children are more likely to follow over time, older children will be more receptive if they’re part of the process of adoption of the new mindset. Depending on their age, they can be asked to participate from the very start, or they can be asked to participate in the version made available to the them after the parents have been on their journey.
Where the biggest impact can be found is in getting support from those who are closely associated with the family. That can be other families, neighbors, church families, relatives, childcare providers.
It’s important to have their support, buy-in, and participation if the mindset is to bear full fruits. If the CEOs of the home are trying to get everyone to participate in the attitude of gratitude but the babysitter and the grandparents are doing the exact opposite, the efforts will not gain as much traction as you’d like.
Tact, wisdom, patience, and tenacity is required. Sometimes, even changing the supporting help to get those who believe in your vision is necessary to help the whole family gain traction in the new mindset.
It takes time. It’s a process. The big picture has to remain in focus to make these changes work. It can be done. After all, captains of industries have successfully changed the habits of society. Just look at how we use phones today compared to a generation ago. Imagine how they’ll be used a generation from now. Change is possible.
It take CEOs of the home with passionate visions to lead the way to making the home better. It takes grit, patience, resilience, and tons of attitude of gratitude to influence this kind of change. The end results is worth it when your family is the successful family you’ve wanted it to be.
Cheers to gracious resiliency.
Below will be a list of all the blog posts related to this series…
Empowering the Home Through Rituals and Traditions
Every family has their own rituals and traditions. Some are seasonal, others are life long. How we curate and shape our rituals will impact our traditions which impacts our legacy. The roles of the CEOs of the home in shaping rituals and traditions changes over time. Being intentional about these will greatly empower your family.
Championing Success Through Empowered Communications
Words have an impact. They paint amazing images. When words are backed by actions, they leave a lasting impression. What we choose to speak, how we speak it, when we speak it can make or break the motivation of a family member. The CEOs of the home are mindful and careful to champion the success of their home.
To Improve a Family Tree, Improve a Family’s Network
Everyone has a network. Each family has a network. The strength of the various connections impacts the net-worth of the network. The network of networks isn’t limited to bloodlines either. The CEOs of the home knows how to leverage connectivity to empower the homes connected to the network.
A Model of a Resilient Home
When things get tough, that’s when you see how tough you really are. Thankfully, resilience is a skill that can be learned before tough times arrive. Between strong bonds and habits, one can practice and learn the craft of rebounding through adversity. The attitude of gratitude finds a way into the mindset that gives CEOs of the home an edge in facing life.
The Graciously Empowered Family
CEOs of the home have many duties. One of which is to leave their homes empowered. The skills and grace required to achieve the vision is ever changing. This overview posts captures part of a seminar’s experience in helping heads of families improve their skills at leading their homes. The Chief Empowerment Office is a very busy place where magic seems to happen. Good thing there is a bit of science to the art.
There is a list of supporting blog posts at the end.
